Sorry this question is so long, but there is a lot of detail and this is actually the revised version.

Okay, so I’ve had one friend since 6th Grade when I moved, and her and I have been best friends for 9 almost 10 years. Then I have another friend who became another best friend of mine when she moved here sophomore year and her and I have been friends for about 5 years. They’re both my best friends and always have been, until recently. . .

Before, back in high school, neither of them really liked each other, but when we hung out together as a group they always pushed that aside. I know that after high school you start growing apart from your high school friends. But that’s not the case here. After high school, one of them went to culinary school about 30 miles away from our town, I was in the same area as her going to film school, and my other friend went to a local college for teaching about 15 miles away. We all still live at home within a 5 mile radius. They both have jobs close to home, but my job was halfway between my college and home. After high school, we were still best friends until I started meeting new people and getting boyfriends. Even with some of my previous boyfriends over the past 3 years things have been smooth. Then I met my current boyfriend who I’ve been dating for just over a year. Since I had started dating him, I’ve tried to keep an equal balance between my friends and my boyfriend like I always have. They like him and approve, and he gets along with them, he’s just like me only a guy.

Now comes the problem. Since I’ve started dating my current boyfriend, they’ve become best friends and don’t include me in anything. They never call or text or email me asking if I want to hang out, and when I ask them they usually say they have plans or some other previous engagement. Which is fine, I don’t mind. But when they say I never ask them if they want to hang out or txt them or ask them what’s up or whatever, it’s like it’s okay for them to do it but wrong for me.

My friend’s father has been in the hospital numerous times over the past year, and I’ve always had to find out by asking her if she wanted to hang out, or from my other friend. She never told me her father was in the hospital or what she was going through.

My other friend went to California for a trip and came back with huge swollen glands and ended up having to have her tonsils removed after half a year of being like that. Of course I didn’t find out about it until the month before she got them removed because I’d text them asking what was up and they’d always said nothing.

I’m tired of being the person to arrange hanging out, and I’m tired of seeing pictures of them having fun while all I did that day was sit home hoping someone would ask me to hang out. They say I spend too much time with my boyfriend, but I’m not going to sit at home doing nothing when there is someone out there who actually wants to spend time with me. If they really wanted to hang out, they would ask me, and they don’t.

Yesterday we got in a huge fight, and I’m pretty sure that our friendships are over. And even if they weren’t I wouldn’t want to be friends with them any more because of some of the things they said. Apparently I’m a lying conniving back-stabbing dramatic b**ch, and they don’t care anymore. They say they never txt me because they don’t care about me anymore or want to hang out with me.

Now I had been suspecting that for a very long time, but it’s not like they’ve made any effort to hang out with me. I’ve done numerous “tests” over the year where I would text them one day then not text them for a few days or maybe a few weeks just to see if they would make an effort to see what was up with me. And they would never text me. Yes, I’ve felt bad for doing that, but why should I make an effort when they don’t?

So I guess my question is, am I really such a horrible boring self-centered “conniving, lying, back-stabbing b**ch” of a friend that they don’t want to be my friends anymore? Or is it all them? Or is it all our faults?

32 Reasons Not to Become a Vampire
1. No more garlic toast.
2. Blood diet causes the WORST morning breath.
3. Thanks to Madonna, Holy Symbols have become fashionable.
4. All elder vampires have that “More Tormented than Thou” attitude.
5. Those pesky mortals all have read the morning paper before you.
6. Eternal embarrassment at having been represented by Tom Cruise.
7. Sleeping in native earth causes toadstools to grow in one’s shorts.
8. Roving gangs of werewolves beat up on vampires just to prove they can.
9. Impossible to get pizza with blood as a topping.
10. Inability to see self in mirror makes grooming difficult.
11. This town has _no_ nightlife.
12. Transylvanian vampire Mafia wants 20% of all the blood you drink.
13. Anne Rice fans constantly pestering you to give them “the Dark Gift.”
14. Complete lack of tan causes people to mistake you for Bill Gates.
15. Can’t find a comfortable coffin anywhere.
16. Dracula’s really an not a very nice person when you get to know him. Lestat too.
17. Living in constant fear that spiked collars will become fashionable.
18. Monty Python fans run up to you and say “sharrrp nasty pointy teeth!”
19. Pallid, pasty, emaciated appearance reminds many of 7-11 clerks.
20. Ever bite the inside of your cheek?
21. Always have to pay full price at movie theatres (no matinees for you!)
22. Fat, smelly mortals still seem to be having more fun than you.
23. Vampire job market limited to 24-hour drugstores and late-night pizza delivery people.
24. Horrible secret of all vampires: The Really Old Underwear Tradition.
25. Male Vampires Only: Ever taken a cold shower? Well make it as cold as the grave and that’s what it’s gonna be like for all eternity. Pack a magnifying glass.
26. Blood banks don’t give away free toaster ovens.
27. You start appending ‘E’s to the ende of every worde.
28. Mortal serial killers much more stylish, efficient, suave, and what’s more, they get all the endorsement deals.
29. Gain a horror-filled depressing world of darkness, lose forever the much more interesting and intelligent world of daytime TV.
30. Lose opportunity to win ten million dollars in Publishers Clearing House Sweepstakes due to little-known rule: “Void if dead.”
31. Beach volleyball tournaments rarely held at night.
32. Gravediggers just aren’t as wacky as you remember them.